With couples and 2+ relationships, I help each member of the partnership(s) learn to regulate and understand their own systems, in order to have more freedom about the ways they show up with each other. I ground myself in a poly-affirming, sex positive and kink-positive approach to couple/partnership therapy. 

Engaging in intimate relationships often brings up each partners’ attachment history. We tend to be drawn to intimacy with people whose expression of their wounding brings our own wounds to the surface. When this happens, we might end up in conflict. These moments are also incredible opportunities to come to consciousness about, and shift our relationships to, our historical wounds. They arise so that they can be healed by our more mature selves.

By bringing more empathy, spaciousness and exploration to patterns partners find themselves at the mercy of, I help couples use the ways they trigger each other as initiation points for their own and collective healing. With this kind of attention, intimate relationships can be a tremendous opportunity to see ourselves more clearly, learn healthy boundaries, heal childhood wounds in a relational context, and create interdependent networks to sustain us in the work we wish to do in the world.